Self-Confidence….usually used on its own, but comes with more than just confidence. Being self-confident, is being secure in your own capabilities. It requires no doubt within yourself and believing you can achieve what is set out before you.
Self-confidence contains two attributes to become one: self-efficacy and self-esteem. Self-efficacy is the mastering a skill and achieving goals of the same skills. Self-esteem however, is where persons believe they have to be accepted and approved by those around them, in order to be happy. Self-esteem, is a mind trick of not feeling good enough…YOU ARE!!! Putting these attributes together, self-efficacy and self-esteem, you develop and have self-confidence.
Building confidence cannot always nor can it be a quick fix. Trying a quick fix to confidence will only leave you feeling depressed with yourself and wanting to give up. So, here are a few tips to gaining self-confidence:
- Pause…take a deep breath and analyze where you are right now in your life. Take note of all YOUR achievements to date. Make a list if you may, as I believe writing is always the best policy of forward thinking. Meaning, when you write, the mind in itself believes whatever you wrote, is something IMPORTANT, so it retains while writing…
- Think about what is important TO YOU and what makes you HAPPY. Forget the world in these few minutes and really think about and what makes you feel GREAT on the inside, when doing it. Do whatever is it again….
- Discover your strong points. What are your strengths and your weaknesses…yes, your weaknesses are also important, as it helps you to also discover what makes you feel less confident in yourself.
- Change your mind set. Start thinking and telling yourself every second you get, you can achieve what you set out to do. You have to take control of your mind, tell yourself and remind yourself that you are AMAZING and can achieve greatness. Whenever you start doubting yourself, find an article or even a great book to read that motivates you in any way (my favorite right now is “When The Miracle Drops” by Jessica Dupart)https://iluvcolors.com/products/when-the-miracle-drops
Create small goals in which you wish to achieve, in short time frames. This will help develop your confidence over time. Work on your self-efficacy…find that skill you have and work with it. Eventually, you will then look back at the goals you wrote and realize, you achieved them in no time at all. You will be laughing asking yourself, “why have I been doubting myself all this time?”
Life is worth LIVING!!!!!